Sanguine and phlegmatic dating
These are the areas that create conflict, miscommunication and misunderstandings which if left unchecked lead to broken relationships, divorce and a lot of loneliness.
My husband and I started dating when I was quite young (he was a few years older) and at first everything was blissful. Neither of us hurt each other, everything was so new and exciting and we loved everything about each other…reality hit.
But then I saw something that bothered me very much.
The man talked about his relationship with the girls he works with.
We just manifest this obsession in a different way.
I am convinced that the vast, vast majority of American church-goers have unknowingly adopted the mainstream view that sexual gratification is necessary to live a fulfilled, happy life.
But we’ve adopted it, and what’s worse is that the truth is that for lack of sex and other reasons, we pity the single as if they are in a really sad state. Although, statistics show that most will have sex before that point, anyway.
We have to stop thinking of sex as something better than Jesus. Think of the damage being caused to singles who think they are missing out on the best part of life.
It was awesome to see God use this man to rescue kids from poverty, drug-addict parents, homelessness etc.
You would be hard-pressed to find a pastor or church member who would say that anything other than “Jesus” is our ultimate source of fulfillment.
Unfortunately, that message is being clouded by our adoption of a sex-obsessed mentality.
As we moved into a more serious, long-term dating relationship we started finding niggly things that just bothered us about each other and then there were some more serious things that had us questioning, should we even be together?
Around that time we discovered a book that helped us hugely – Personality Plus by Florence Littauer.