My best friend dating my boyfriend
You are sacrificing a long-lasting friendship for an uncertain future. Best of luck, Erika Erika Myers, MS, MEd, LPC, NCC is a licensed psychotherapist and former educator specializing in working with families in transition (often due to separation or divorce) as well as individuals seeking support with relationship issues, parenting, depression, anxiety, grief/loss/bereavement, and managing major life changes.
Although her theoretical orientation is eclectic, she most frequently uses a person-centered, strengths-based approach and cognitive behavioral therapy in her practice.
My best friend and I have been besties since the fourth grade. She was with this guy for four years, up until early May of this year, when he suddenly decided to break up with her. I started hanging out with him about two weeks later, at first thinking I was just being someone to talk to.
Well, me and this guy started sleeping together about two weeks ago and we're crazy about each other. My feeling is that she would be very hurt, but at the same time I don't want to pass up a chance to be with someone who could turn out to be the love of my life, you know?
I am not saying that what you have isn’t real, but might you find yourself in a similar situation four years from now?
I imagine your friend thought their love was the real thing, too.
We had been at a party an hour subway ride from our apartment when one of our friends showed up very drunk and barely able to stand.
As one of my best friends’ weddings was winding down a few years ago, my date Russell and I told a story about one of our most memorable nights out in New York.She, or others, may try to make you feel guilty or ashamed of what has happened. Is it unfortunate that you have fallen for your friend’s ex? Would it have been better to talk with her before things got to this point? However, all you can do now is own your choices and move forward with honesty and integrity.You also have the opportunity to use this experience as a chance for some introspection.On some level you must have known that she would be bothered by it, and you chose not to tell her.I don’t say this to judge or to blame, but I think it is important to be clear about what has been happening.
She will very likely be devastated and feel betrayed by her best friend and by the man she thought she had a lasting future with.