Dating in twenties
You know, the guy who sits by himself at a party reading a book and plays guitar in the park? He’s mysterious, sexy, and maybe you can be the one to “tame him.” Well, won’t be taming any bad boys in your twenties because while all the bad boys are out there knee-deep in pussy, so are you. Maybe like an intellectual type woman because they exist too and that’s who you typically date.
Everyone dates this guy at some point, except you, probably – because you’re busy dating the girl who takes selfies of just her abs in a sports bra right now and it’s really working for you. You might actually be the “bad boy” yourself, you little James Dean! The Intellectual Lots of women will fall head over heels in love with a highly intellectual, emotionally detached academic man at some point in their twenties. The Feminine Guy Actually, you will date this guy but only because you are extremely confused for a brief period in your very early 20s and this is just sort of a rite of passage. If there’s one thing that’s true for all women, they WILL date the same types of men when they are still finding their way in life.
In your teens, you can meet someone at an underage drinking session, in your university halls or on your course, be friends first, then develop feelings and start dating.
After you graduate, your life becomes dominated by work, with the occasional catch-up with friends you’ve known for years. I find I meet people who are nice enough, but not people I would have dated if I’d met them organically.
On the flip side though, dating isn’t easy for anyone.
I’ve had friends who’ve slept with guys after three dates when things were going well, and the guy then disappeared.
Some of you may be thinking why do I not just go and have sex? Sex is an intimate thing, and I’m not happy sharing my body with people I’m not passionately attracted to.
After thinking about it, I realised there are some ways it affects how I date. So instead of talking about what I don’t know, here are the things I do know: I think most daters are eventually hoping to get into a relationship. The two don’t always go together, but for me they do.
I mean, to be honest I haven’t really dated anyone for a long time. There hasn’t been anyone I’ve considered having sex with for a long time, so I feel like I’m not really qualified to say what it’s like dating in the modern era when you’re a virgin in your twenties. I’m 26, and I the reason I haven’t ‘done it’ yet is that I’ve never had a proper relationship.
Dating can feel like looking for a needle in a haystack.
I’m almost 5’9” and only attracted to taller men, so that rules out many guys.